Scripture Reading

Matthew 6:33
Matthew 6:33 (NLT)

“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.”

Colossians 3:1–2
Colossians 3:1–2 (NLT)

“Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven… Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth.”

Devotional

Who Is at the Centre?

A healthy Christian relationship is not built simply on chemistry, attraction, or emotions, it is built with God at the centre.

As believers, we are called to put God first in every area of our lives. He is not meant to be an occasional part of our relationship; He should be the foundation of it. The strongest relationships are not just two people pursuing each other they are two people pursuing God together.

When God is first, love becomes healthier, decisions become wiser, and the relationship becomes stronger because it is no longer sustained by feelings alone, but by His presence and direction.

Putting God first means asking:

  • Are we helping each other grow spiritually?

  • Is God truly at the centre of our relationship, or only included when it’s convenient?

  • Are we pursuing God together or slowly drifting away from Him?

How Can We Put God First in Our Relationship?

1. Consult God About Your Plans

Invite God into your decisions, future plans, goals, and challenges. Don’t make major relationship decisions without seeking His wisdom and direction.

2. Pray Together

Prayer builds spiritual unity. When couples pray together, they learn to depend on God together and not just on each other.

3. Study the Word Together

God’s Word gives wisdom, correction, encouragement, and direction. A relationship grounded in Scripture has a strong foundation.

4. Worship Together

Worship shifts your focus back to God. It reminds you that He is the source of your strength, peace, and identity.

5. Encourage Spiritual Growth

Healthy relationships should push both people closer to Christ. Encourage one another to grow in prayer, holiness, purpose, and obedience to God.

6. Keep Each Other Accountable

Love is not just about comfort,  it is also about accountability. Help each other stay aligned with God’s standards and avoid compromise.

Creating a God-First Relationship Strategy

A relationship does not automatically stay spiritually healthy, it requires intentionality. Creating a strategy to keep God first could include:

  • Setting regular times to pray together

  • Reading a devotional or Bible plan together

  • Attending church consistently

  • Having honest conversations about spiritual growth

  • Encouraging purity and wise boundaries

  • Checking in with one another about your walk with God

When both people are committed to seeking God first, the relationship becomes stronger, healthier, and more purposeful.

God never asks us to put Him first to take something away from us. He asks because He knows that when He is at the centre, everything else functions the way it should.

Reflection Questions

  • Is God truly first in my relationship, or just included occasionally?

  • Are we helping each other grow spiritually?

  • What practical habits can we build to keep Christ at the centre of our relationship?

Guided Prayer

Lord, help us to put You first in every part of our relationship. Teach us to seek Your Kingdom above our own desires and to build our relationship on Your Word and Your presence. Help us to pray together, grow together, and encourage one another in our walk with You. As we seek You first, we trust that You will provide everything needed for our relationship to thrive according to Your will. In Jesus’ name, Amen.